How To Deal With Negative People

Greetings my loves!

First and foremost, happy & blessed Imbolc! Though it was yesterday, February 1st, I am a little late to the game here but hey, blessings can be blessings. Those in my immediate area are not celebrating until the 7th so I will make a complete separate post on Imbolc and what I did this year!
So stay tuned!

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But today what I really wanted to talk about was dealing with negative people. This past week has been really challenging for me emotionally. I've been dealing with a nasty coworker who constantly degrades my work and then has a major mood swings to where she suddenly wants to be a concerned friend, which has been leaving me very angry. On top of that, my home situation has not been ideal where my anger caries home and doesn't allow me to deal with things pleasantly like I want to within the household. Then my school work for my bachelor's degree was getting on my nerves because I had a really anal professor who took points off for commas when they are as subjective in grammar as they come. Feel overwhelmed? Yeah I do and I was just typing my past experiences.

Whether you're dealing with people from work, school, home or just people along your travels, negative people can have an impact on your overall attitude, especially if you're an empath like I am. I recently have been rediscovering my roots, aka where I was learning the basics of paganism and going over various techniques to protect myself in the spirit world. When it dawned on me, "Hello Ganshmi, you should be doing this daily if it's making you this angry." When I say angry, I mean I wanted to do horrible and nasty things to people if I didn't agree with something. I wasn't acting like myself and definitely not acting upon spreading love instead of hate, something the world has too much of at this time.* So that's when I decided to take a course and regain my knowledge with some actual practicing. Below are the tricks I've been relearning and using that would aid you if you're dealing with negative energies or people.

1] Grounding

Grounding is a beautiful tool that we often overlook when we're feeling overwhelmed. It aids to connect back to mother Earth when we're dealing with a lot, not for just when we're done being awesome spiritual pagans. There are various techniques to grounding and not everyone masters it right away, but one grounding technique I like to use is imagining roots are growing from the soles of my feet and to the ground below. I reach my roots further into the Earth, as far as I can possibly go, letting the cool soil nourish my chakras while I find a deep quartz crystal and wrap my roots around it, therefore healing myself. 

2] Clearing

Many people do not know this, but your daily shower or bath is actually you clearing your energy! Pretty neat huh? If showering daily is not your thing, or you'd rather have an actual practice to clearing, then another technique I've been using is taking a light shower. You sit in a comfortable position with your feet planted on the ground, letting yourself relax until you vision a bright white light floating above your crown chakra. Slowly the light washes over your body until all the negativity dissolves from you.

3] Protection / Shielding

This one is an important one, especially for those who are empaths. Shielding/Protecting yourself from other people's emotions is essential or you run around your day feeling like an absolute mess. Start your day by surrounding yourself with a bubble of white light. Imagine it being unbreakable and strong. You can also use various colors, such as pink for love or green for healing. If the bubble is not your thing, you can try disco balls, mirrors, the sacred geometrical flower grid, or whatever strikes your fancy! Try out a couple of different methods and see which one works for you!

4] Breathing

For those moments when you're thinking of nothing else but the situation you're in, the best thing to do is to take a deep breath and to just breathe. Allow the oxygen to fill your lungs, hold it in for roughly 4 seconds, and then let it all out through your mouth. Repeat this a few times and feel the magick flowing through you.

5] Meditating

If you have some time on your hands, meditating is a great stress reducer. Use whatever technique works for you and who knows, you might find an answer to your problems you didn't even know you needed!

6] Getting Out Of The Situation

For some situations where it is so toxic you want to do some serious damage, get yourself out of the situation. Toxic work environments, for example, are something no one should have to put up with. Whether it's switching offices, locations or jobs itself, you should not have to deal with the toxic environment if you can avoid it. Just don't do anything rash.

7] Calling For Help

When all else fails, it's never a bad idea to call for back up. Your guides and angels are always happy to help you in terms of a crisis and you'll find yourself thankful you called for their help.

I know this was a very basic list but I just wanted to remind everyone there are ways to living your life better one technique at a time. Let me know below what techniques you use!

Love & Light,

Ganshmi

* This is not saying I am a fluffy pagan, I am far from it. I just know my purpose here is to heal, love and spread awareness to where it aids the Earth. 

Overwhelming Love From MahaLakshmi

Om Shreem Heem Lakshmyai Namaha

Greetings My Loves!

I wanted to share an experience I had with mother Lakshmi about a month ago that I thought would be interesting and insightful.

I was having a few rough days. Thanksgiving was only a few days away and my family decided to leave me behind so I could house and pet sit. They do this almost every year and it's not the first time they thought nothing of leaving me behind. Granted, I never told them how leaving me behind makes me feel directly, but I can only imagine they are aware of how I feel to an extent, given that I have expressed disappointment when they make trips without me for the soul reason I do not live under their roof anymore.

My friend was hosting a Soul Circle Gathering where once a month pagans can gather to a certain location, learn a lesson about gratitude or whatever the month's theme was, and then have a meditation afterwards that ties it all together. It usually consists of five woman, one of them being myself. We're trying to expand it's numbers currently and are already succeeding in its popularity. But I digress, we had our 'class' on what to be thankful for. I wrote down the basics, a home, my boyfriend, friends, family, my life, my job, and so on. Then I wrote down what I would like to blossom into my life. A new job, a house [in which my boyfriend and I will be looking for one soon this coming year] and a few other things I have been struggling with in 2015. We finished the class with a bang and everyone was having a good time. Then came time for the meditation.

Mother Goddess Lakshmi

The meditation itself was quite sweet. The lights were dimmed in the room while gentle music breezed through my eardrums, letting the gentle light of the loving moon, or as Lakshmi worshippers call the moon Uncle, gaze down upon my plump form. I laid down on the floor completely, letting the meditation bring me into a higher state of consciousness os my friend began reading the script. Closing my eyes, I pictured the lush green forest my friend was describing to me. Long and tall trees as far as my eyes could see, a gentle dirt below my naked feet as I took steps towards a well in the middle of the forrest. After the well appeared a cave and I entered it, seeing a dim light leading towards a stone structure of a throne with a woman gazing at me with a huge inviting smile. It only took a few minutes to realize who the beautiful woman was: Lakshmi. Her black hair cascading down her back as her outfit was green with red and gold detailing. She walked over to me slowly, seeing as how I was stunned by her presence. I had met with her in various meditations before but I was not expecting her to grace my presence this day. She embraced me as a mother would, causing tears on both realms to form within my eyes, my eyes turning red from the tears flowing freely.

All she did was hold me, petting my hair gently as she consoled me from the emotions I was holding inside of myself. Then for what seemed as if it was too short of a time, it was time to come back. I thanked her for her motherly blessing and bid her goodbye, coming back to the realm to notice my cheeks were stained with fresh tears. I told my classmates what had happened, causing more tears to flow freely. I was releasing all the emotions I had been holding back inside, letting it cleanse of of the negativity that was kept inside my heart. 

It still feels like a huge blessing on her part to have her just hold me, a loving gentle goddess that could be doing anything in the world, taking the time to reach out and console me. I feel so honored and humbled knowing she cares that deeply for me. Not that I did not love her before, but that night was the night I truly loved her.

Love & Light,

Ganshmi